Here are the 3 most powerful secrets of Rock-Solid Confident People:
They Manage Their Minds At Every Moment
People who have rock-solid confidence know how to manage their minds at every moment. The reason why you feel overly anxious about that job interview or presentation or performance is because you can’t manage your mindset well to handle the tasks.
The beauty of our mindset is that we can easily choose to shift it at any time towards the direction we choose. Let us consider an example where you are relaxing in your home on Saturday morning having breakfast with your loved ones. Suddenly, the phone rings. Out of nowhere, you were told that you must attend an urgent meeting in an hour! And you have to abandon your family for this unexpected meeting elsewhere.
Wow! Anyone in their right minds will feel ambushed, angry, and anxious being put in such situation. However, all you have to do is try to instantly shift your focus from enjoying family time to getting into the confident, high-level meeting mindset.
No one said that this would be easy, because it is not. But the first thing you should do is try and gather information from your boss about the expectations of the meeting, the agenda, the stakeholders seating in the meeting, and other important details. You could then talk to your family about what just happened and get going.
One thing that is important to note is that when a new, unexpected situation arises, you have to accept that you will feel frustrated, challenged and stressed out. However, you can trick your brain into the right state of mind and get the important things done right away. At first, this may not be easy. However, as you gain more knowledge and learn from experience, you will always be mentally prepared for this kind of unexpected events.
Simply ask yourself whether there is anything at all that will get you in the right frame of mind. Think of your brain like Google, which anything you ask will be answered.
They Start A "Dream factory"
If you are going to have confidence in life, the key to have a sense of direction in which your life is growth. Just a simple question such as, “What would you like your life to be like?” is enough to help you put things into perspective. Determine what your dream lifestyle is like and how do you measure your own level of success. Then write all your responses on a piece of paper.
Ideally, you should get up each morning and read this paper about your dream life and take a few minutes to visualize it. As days go by, you can add more specifics to your dream life. By starting the day in such way, you are actually imprinting rock-solid confidence into your subconscious mind. This will also inform what steps you take to bring you closer to your dream life.
They Intentionally Stop Giving A Hoot About What Others Think Of Them
If you desire rock-solid confidence, you have to come to terms with the fact that people will always judge. This means that the only person that you really should be impressing is you! Unshakeable confidence comes from setting your expectations and then giving your all to live up to them. There is nothing that you stand to gain when you match up your goals with other people’s expectations.
Well, don’t get me wrong, healthy competition isn’t bad! When you have great motivators in life, you will always aim to work hard and model their successes. If you are an athlete and you managed to beat your all-time best record. Even though you might have come in second in a race, you should not be disappointed because you have done your best and broke your own record. That is all that really matters.
Every single day, purposefully do the right thing and give it your best, and then go ahead and be proud of the person you are. If you have a strong desire to quit your job and start a business in pursuit of your dreams, then, by all means, do it! It does not matter what people think. All that matters is that you are running your race for the ultimate prize- your dream life!
That said, having rock-solid confidence is not an easy task. You have to learn to shut out all the external noise so that you can listen to your inner voice. If you always live your pleasing others, you will never confidently pursue your dreams, but live a miserable life. A life of regret is a life that we should always stay away from. Unshakeable confidence comes when you stop being controlled by people and rather take control of your own life and steer it in the direction you want to go.
This is one of our "secrets to outliving your most authentic self ", I will share my three pillars of unshakeable confidence next week, stay tuned.